Forgiving is Living

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Anger, Fury, Rage- are all characteristics that embody us when we refuse to forgive. The longevity of it depends on the level of deceit and deception; a week, month,even years.

“Anger is one letter away from  danger”

“Bitterness is like cancer, eating upon the host”

What I’m starting to learn is that these emotions marinate within us, when we don’t allow ourselves to go through the grieving process. Whether its through crying, yelling, or writing- when we don’t give ourselves the time and opportunity ti release our anger, it can lead to destruction. I’ve learned that my issue is being instantly forgiving. When I’ve been hurt, and received an apology; forgiveness is instantly given. I don’t think twice about it. I always figured that if God can forgive us all, even murderers, child molesters, etc- then who am I to not forgive anyone.

I know the way I’m thinking about it is right-but my actions are wrong. I rarely voice my feelings, and when I do, I try to keep them to a minimum because I don’t want to make anyone feel that I may have said they were forgiven, just to throw it in their face. Maturity,is getting me to recognize that I have to allow myself to be angry and to cry about it. Once you have truly forgiven someone, then you are able to start rebuilding trust. -even that’s not easy because at times, we allow our minds to run wild-which will make us go insane.

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The quote above really spoke to me, because it’s the truth. When you carry the pain, because you deem it impossible to forgive someone- you are killing yourself. Your spirit dies and your heart becomes cold. This is no way to live. Many people in my life would say- I put up with a lot. Maybe things that I should never consider- but that is who I am. I know that I hate not being forgiven, grudges being held against me, and someone who reminds me of my past- so in this aspect i try to live by the golden rule. Sure there are going to be randoms who try to destroy your path, but if someone you love has hurt you- ask yourself if its worth letting go? After all the time you spent sharing memories, building bonds, tackling life [together]- is it worth walking away from?  Sometimes I feel like my willingness to forgive is a blesssing and a curse, because I know that there are many that have crossed me, should have never bee given a second chance- but that’s not for me to decide. But as I read in Matthews 6, if we don’t forgive, we will not be forgiven-and if we judge others, we will be judged by the same criteria.

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Outgrowing Friendships

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Hey Beauties,
It’s been awhile since I’ve actually done a personal blog. i have been keeping up with the Michael Brown case and the ISIS events- that I’ve neglected to vent about my own experiences. Well today I want to touch on “out-growing friendships”-some of you may be able to relate, while others of you are puzzled. Well I’m sure all of us has attempted one way or another to rekindle a friendship. Whether it’s because you lost contact, had a fall out, or life took its course and you all just parted ways. Sometimes all works for the best- and then you have the moment where, you’ve tried so hard to get into contact with that person; and when you do you kick yourself in the ass-saying “why the hell did I do this to myself!” (a little dramatic, but you get my point..)
Once thing I’ve learned is that we all grown up differently, for some it takes the worst happening for them to grow up. Some are raised with a silver spoon in their mouth, and don’t know the true meaning of responsibility. So for two people to have grown up two different ways- they are not always going to see eye-to-eye. I’ve had my fair share of realizing a friendship has been out grown- yet in this case I think its much different. I’ve grown to believe that her and I are circumstantial friends. We became close in high school. I was the new girl that no one knew, and didn’t have anyone who had my back. She was the struggling math student, who needed her trigonometry class to graduate. We indirectly made a trade, I helped her pass the class, and she became a “friend”. After high school we went our separate ways and barley kept contact. Her we are 7 years later- and I feel as though I should have kept the friendship where it was- in the past! There are control issues, and I feel as though when I don’t act or do what she wants- then I’m mistreated. I think sometimes we have to learn the hard way to understand. And after this nonsense, I can say this is a learning lesson.

well beauties I hope everyone is having a good day, and if you’re not- it’s still early enough to make it better!

Ignorance Makes Headlines, While Real Concerns Are Pushed Aside.

Im sure we are all aware of the Ray Rice incident, that has been a trending topic all throughout social media, newspapers, and news channels. This unfortunate event that occurred back n February- is just now being brought to the surface. Now in no way, shape, or form am I undermining domestic violence- I DO NOT condone it in anyway! It’s just frustrating me that the domestic violence isn’t the issue that’s getting so much attention. It is the fact that the NFL didn’t react sooner, or his punishment is too harsh, or the fact that his termination is no way to help his wife-everyone has seem to put real issues behind them- and glorifying negativity.
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So did we all just forget about Michael Brown? Or what about the two journalist that were recently beheaded, or the fact that with this ISIS group-it looks like we are about to have another World War?! As soon as this nonsense hit the media, all other issues have been swept under the rug. All of this attention he is getting is not helping or teaching him a lesson. He’s used to the attention- and the media is giving him exactly what he wants. His goal is to stay relevant. Many will argue and say they are trying to “bring justice to his wife and show that she has supporters”- that’s BS. Let’s be honest, if she wanted to get away-this would be the perfect time. All the media has Rice under a close watch, they are all over the headlines; so this wouldn’t be the time for him to lash out on her- yet she’s by his side. She has been a victim of domestic violence, however after their counseling sessions, she not only decided to stay, but she allowed herself to exchange vows with him, becoming his wife. We only know the information released to us, not the full story; so most of what we read or hear is speculation based off the information provided.

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Yes! The video that was released was horrifying! It’s hard to watch, and I know it has to be hard for Janay to watch, and hear about. Because you have to think, she’s not just hearing it from the media, she is probably going through hell with her family. For someone who has experienced domestic violence, I know when it took place, if she told her family- she told them the bare minimum and more than likely didn’t include the part where things got physical. She’s under scrutiny from everyone, but if she decided to forgive him and move forward – then the world must do the same.

Again there are many things that we as a nation have to put our energy towards. When Mrs. Rice is ready to change her current situation, she will. The world, media, or society cannot make that decision for her. How about there’s a new witness in the Michael Brown case. There are construction workers who were working the day Brown was killed, and witnessed the incident. A father in South Carolina is being held and charged for the deaths of 5 children. These are all issues that need to be discussed, yet silence remains. We need to give attention to these issues and the families for the victims.

Atlanta Hawks Being sold, due to racist owner.

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After hearing the tape that was leaked for the entire world, Donald Sterling was forced to sell his team. When things started to spiral with the media, many of his colleagues- they openly voiced their opinion. Saying how they couldn’t work with a person who has that mindset. One of the major voices of that scandal was, Bruce Levenson- owner of the Atlanta Hawks. Apparently him and Sterling were partners, and in an interview he stated “I can’t be partners with someone who shares those views.” Like i say all the time , “he was throwing stones, living in a glass house” But Karma(the evil bitch she is)came back around. However I really want to call it stupidity- this fool sent an email saying in detail how he felt about Africa Americans. In a nut shell hes says how black people are scaring off the white fans; which are more valuable. Which I don’t understand, because if the statistics he gave in his email are true, then how would “white people” be more valuable. He said blacks make up 70% of the audience, and 90% of the bars at the stadium…so if were judging business off of race now, then where’s the value? Levenson really put his foot in his mouth in this email. I’m just confused on how the email was sent in 2012- yet we are just seeing this come to light. I guess he learned from the Sterling scandal to walk away quietly. He is selling the team, instead of being voted out.
It’s really making me sick how we still have this racial divide. Whites blaming black and vise versa. It’s just like seriously? As a country we are going through hell, and a nation we are experiencing chaos, and as individuals we are trying to survive. Other nations refer to us as the weakest country- however everyone wants to sit back and wonder why. If we can’t stand together now- is it ever going to happen?

Check out the video from CNN, for details as to what happened.I was not able to get the link to show you guys the email-but it’s available on CNN website.
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Gone Too Soon-Simone Battle; A Star on the Rise

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Most known for showcasing her talents on X-Factor (2011), regretably at 25, the you star has passed away. According to reports, at 8:30am police found her hanging on a rod in her closet. Many are assuming suicide, however with the autospy reports pending- no offical cause of death has been given.
It’s just sad to see another member of our youth go. It seems like our generation is dropping like flies. Regardless of the cause, we shouldn’t have to look around and wonder if the people we went to high school with are going to be here in 10 years. After Simone’s success with the X-Factor, she was named a member of GRL- which is a group created by Robin Antin; creator or the Pussycat Dolls. Simone is described by many as a charasmatic woman who was just as beautiful inside as is was on the out. My condolences go out to the Battle family. The world has lost and angel.

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AMERICAN JOURNALIST BEHEADED!

Hey Beauties,

Okay so I love/ hate watching the news because though its not good to choose to be ignorant, its depressing to hear what’s going on in this crazy world that we live in. Whether its locally, nationally, or even internationally- its sad. However I had to write about this particular story, because a journalist who covers stories in different countries is what I want to do, and this story was a sad reality check for me. So if you haven’t heard already, a freelance journalist by the name of Steven Sotloff was beheaded Islamic militants. Apparently it was the same person who killed the another American journalist, James Foley two weeks ago. So just a brief overview- Obama sent us over there to help protect the country because this terrorist group is making it impossible for the people of that country to live peacefully. And the Islamic militants are pissed about it- so in turn they are sending messages to our country by taking American hostages, and killing them.

It really saddens me, to hear about what’s going on. After reading about this guy, he just wanted to do what all journalist want- and that’s give people a voice. advocate for those who aren’t able to advocate for themselves. Helping people and writing are my passions-its just sad that hatred was the cause to this tragedy.

I will be looking into this and keeping everyone posted. I’m thinking of doing a t-shirt fundraiser, as I’ve heard its possible to do this through the internet.

I hope everyone is having a good day- despite the nonsense that continues to happen in our world.

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Okay so, I haven’t been blogging because of confusion- with life, me, relationships, and this blog. I feel like my blog should have a purpose. However I feel like maybe my blog’s purpose is to touch on all topics- politics, health, life, etc. There are so many things that go on in our world- its so hard just to write about one particular topic. So I think I’ve found my niche.

I think where I went blind-sided is when I starting comparing everyone else’s blog to my own. And because of that- I allowed my self to get discouraged. I’m sure just like me, everyone started their blog somewhere..so I can only go up from here. So Beauties, today’s lesson: “Comparing yourself to others, is an act of violence against your authentic self” -Iyanla Vanzant.